Every relationship goes through the adrenalin rush at start then settling in period and then for some ,things head downhill .Whether married or dating ,a split isn’t easy for anyone to get through but it is even disastrous if you don’t see it coming. Being alert for symptoms your relationship is on the rocks can help maybe repair the damage or do damage control.
1. YOU ARGUE ABOUT almost every thing.
One of the warning signs your relationship is headed for breakpoint is if you find that you are arguing more often than not.
When you start name calling and character assassination , you are on the brink the downward spiral to breakup .
3.TALK OF DIVORCE
Threats .That is an easy way to see it occur. ndatirambane/let's end this …You must never threaten to end the relationship out of anger. My Bf and I will not even bring up the let’s separate word.We know that it is not an option .
4. VISIBLE DISTANCE
You stop missing each other or there is a disconnection between you. This can be felt even when there is no tension or fight. While it is impossible to expect to feel romantically connected at all times, it should be the rule rather than the exception.
5. RUMOR MILL
Gossip alert , it can cause destruction.The thing is, a lot of times rumors are unfounded. If they persist, you should definitely check them out.
Don’t assume be sure .
6. LEADING SEPARATE LIVES &DREAMS
When you begin living lives that are separate, be very, careful. You want and need to have your own identities but when there is nothing left shared in common between you then the relationship ends there.Making a ritual, such as spending every Friday at Book Cafe together, can be the key that keeps you together. Be sure there is some sharing going on between you.
7. CHANGING SEASONS
Perhaps your partner no longer kisses you goodbye or has stopped texting good morning or just stays away too often .While this could just be an oversight, it could also mean you are headed for breakup..
8. SEX IS HISTORY
You are practically roommates because all intimacy has ceased or sex is now a duty or routine .
9.ENDEARMENTS ARE A CHORE
Do you know it’s actually important to call your partner by a sweet pet name
Babes /sweetie /honey /dear /mudiwa/s’thandwa sami
Or whatever you call them
When this changes to …(iwe )…YOU..heyi wena…
Warning bells for trouble ..
10.FAVOURS ARE EXCRUCIATINGLY PAINFUL
you stop doing each other favours
Every thing is painful to do for the other…even calling or texting them .
Whilst every relationship has it’s highs and lows there should be a balance.
If you see more of lows than highs then it’s time to mend fences before they become unrepairable!!
Happy Loving !